Perfect Relationship

The title which this blog shares is of a very delicate nature. Even the thought of this may result in catastrophic result in the thought bearer's love life. But underneath the reactions of females that are way too complex for males to understand, may be there is a simple general rule that applies to all relationships.

"A perfect relationship exists when the participants know when to leave their partner alone."

Correct me if i am wrong in saying that you have never felt the urge to be alone, I will tell you a personal experience that a friend of mine shared with me when he was drunk. he could barely think but think mind numbness also resolved his mind knots. He was saying many things that I could not understand, but one thing he said very clearly that made an permanent impression in my mind.

If she left me alone for a while I would make us a world.

Now I happened to be around his drunk girlfriend once. What she said led me to write this blog. 

My thoughts kill me if he is not around.

Night is a self appointed judge

And the night dawns upon us all
Untamed, unstoppable, unavoidable.
We are forced by deafening silence
To think, to sum up
Things that went wrong
You can’t lie
Night watches us regret and remorse
Like and dispassionate judge
Night is definitely not for sleeping definitely
Or I would be sleeping now.

Dreams, Hope, hidden things that we do
Are night’s bate.
Bit by bit night condenses,
Over our bare bodies.
Can’t see, Can’t detach.
Drags us to the biggest night of all

Death.   

That's why I couldn't write romantic poetry

I tried hard, countless scraped paper. I used to spend hours to write some lines (preferably rhyming) which would be felt important by some heart other than me. After having so many imaginary friends sneak into my room and so many fantasies I came up with the two lines, which I laugh about now. 

you are like a dove

my sweet little love...

well, in the end  I had in my hand this page filled with lines like this. I realized that  poetry cannot be written, you cannot write a poetry, it dawns on you (or it "dance" on you). 

Then I went into mythological phase, wrote a book (80 pages) about relation between god and science. lingered. Lingered on the verge of invention, twice. Troubled Miss Swinky; my physics professor, a lot. But still I never really quit tried writing romance. I couldn't do it.

I wrote the following in my final year:

I go back to the time

To moments those were mine

I shouldn't have done so many things

So many things i shouldn't have quit doing

Every cherished thought is out of reach

Every promise is a liability

Somewhere down the line

I lost myself in you

And I can't find it now.

Somewhere between the time I must have tasted love, or may be not. I think life is a pursuit of trying to understand love. 

It is wired that you cannot express what you feel, the whole concept of language is offset. Not only love, daily feelings like sweetness, sourness, kindness etc.  Try to explain the pain of pinch on the cheeks, pain of pinch on your palm pain of heart and the difference between them. Words actually distort the meaning of fact. May be that is how god stops us from actually helping some other person in his pursuit. As life is an absolute event.

Go on a trip without a camera

I mean no offence to the photographers out there. But when you click a scene with your camera you kinda spoil the view for yourself. So all in all if you take a camera with you on the trip, you spoil the perfectness of scenes for yourself to share the imperfect photographs with others. I will explain below why i say your photographs "imperfect".

Look to the moon, stare at the peak or stare down from the peak, but no, don't touch your camera. I would recommend don't even take it with you on such trips. If you don'h have the camera with you, you wont just click a picture and move on, you will stand there for as long as you need to absorb the nectar of the scene. Because you know it is a rare event in your life.  Right then you realize the importance of being there at that very moment.

Camera is an invention of mankind made to enable us to share what we see. It is an instrument which gives you the feel of being somewhere you have not been, now, that is unethical. no matter how good your camera is, nothing can replace wind splashes on your face when you are on top of a snow covered peak, the silence and the satisfaction. I don't want me to hold a camera there; I want to lie down and watch the absolutely clear sky (it is less oxygen up there so the sky is slightly darker).

That is what science does, it tries to prove things once and for all, it replaces experience with the established rules (which are proved wrong overtime, all of them). You cannot establish a universal rule by performing a small experiment. But it does not stop at establishing a rule, then they tell this rule to other people, but the people have never actually experienced anything like it, yet they are forced to believe. There is a serious lack of craving for experience in most of the people in our society today, camera has helped lessening that craving.

Saying I love you

Who do you think is eligible to say "I love you"?

So? You think you found your life partner? Cannot live without propose her? Hormones going all crazy, the overwhelming feeling of excitement does not let you sleep in nights?

I was on my bike contemplating the mechanism of love, marriages etc. when it suddenly struck me (don't worry, my friend was driving), when can a person say "I love you" and really mean it?
There should be something common, a common thought may be, or a common gesture in all the lovers because they all think the same thing - that they love the person they are kneeling in front of.

After a thorough thinking (almost my entire evening) I finally came to the following conclusion:
One can only say and mean "I love you" when he knows what it would mean to say "I hate you" or not say anything at all.

If a person can make sense of a life in which he does not say anything to her, he is yet to fall in love with her, they should have more experiences together. THIS NOT A MATTER TO BE WORRIED ABOUT. Go out together more often, make some mistakes, get caught. May be someday time handcuffs you both together, it would make no sense to part then, right?

However, if a person can make sense of a life when he says "I hate you" to her, he should understand that he is proposing her to get into her house, money safe or worse - bed, and that he would regret it later when there is no going back. He is missing out on life.

So before you propose just try to make sense of your life without her, if you succeed, you should probably make some more love between you.

There you go, I just saved you from wasting your valuable time over a terrible love life.